In the midst of the pandemic, I was confused, as most were. I knew I wanted to start my career in teaching but wasn’t sure where to start. Eventually, I decided to start working at the preschool that I attended when I was younger. Along with taking courses at Lansing Community College in Child Development, I began my journey. I feel that, in this journey, I have not only been able to learn about Child Development but also implement and facilitate that knowledge in the classroom.
After a month or so, I was introduced to a new family that had just started at the preschool. They were from the area and had two children, ages 3 years old and 5 months old. Both children were very bubbly, energetic, and happy children. When they arrived at school, they almost always had a smile on their face and were eager to see their friends. We started communicating with simple “good mornings” and asking how the other person was. As time went on, we began to engage in conversations about what they had done the night prior, what they planned for the day, or even where they were going for the weekend. These conversations, during our interactions, started to become a regular thing. Now, we begin each day with the two children running into the building, shouting “Miss Avery!” and greeting me with a hug. Regardless of if I am in their classroom that day, if we see one another in the building, we still say a quick “hello” or give a brief hug.
Thinking back, I didn’t think much of these interactions; I simply felt that the children and I got along very well and were close. It wasn’t until a couple weeks ago, when I babysat for them one night, I truly learned how much of an impact I had, had on them. After the parents came home, I had a conversation with them for two hours. Within that time, what we talked about truly affirmed my beliefs that providing positive and consistent caregiving builds strong relationships. During our conversation, the family shared with me how when they would see me in the preschool, they would feel excitement and happiness. They explained, they almost felt relief, because they knew they had someone there for their child. They shared that in the time they and their children have known me, they had never seen their children so comfortable and attached to a person. How I communicated with the children about their thoughts, always saying “hello” or “have a good day” made them feel that they belonged at the center. Through this conversation that I had with them, it truly made me feel like I was doing something that positively impacted their children. That the information I had been learning was being presented and facilitated in my interactions with their children. This simple conversation affirmed and enforced my belief that what I am doing is meaningful. That I want to continue creating positive and responsive caregiving with others. So, I am able to create and build relationships that hopefully, make others feel similar.
Elizabeth Laakso
April 26, 2022 — 8:01 pm
Hi Avery,
I loved reading your story and I think that it did a great job at showing how important relationships are when it comes to working with people in general. I have had a very similar experience when I was babysitting one of the children from my center. I was talking to the mom and she was asking how much I wanted to get paid and continued by saying that it didn’t matter to her because she just wanted someone that her children were comfortable with and loved and that she felt safe leaving her children with. It is moments like this that make you realize how important your job is as a teacher and I am so glad that you have had one of those moments. Great essay Avery!
Tricia McKay
April 27, 2022 — 9:45 am
Hi Avery, Thank you for sharing your essay and story about how building relationships is an important part of being an early childhood educator. I think you will find that the principles of responsive caregiving, which are at the core of early childhood education, can be applied to building relationships in so many different situations, inside and outside the classroom, you will experience in your lifetime. These are wonderful foundational skills that you have built.
Heidi Jordan
April 28, 2022 — 7:50 am
Hi Avery,
I so enjoyed reading your heartwarming essay. Building positive and authentic relationships with children is so important. To best support children in learning, this has to be the foundation upon which all else is built!
Marshanae Matthews
April 28, 2022 — 4:09 pm
Hey Avery,
I enjoyed reading your essay. Your essay demonstrated that strong positive relationships have a lifelong impact on the children and teachers. Your essay really resonated with me because positive relationships is something I live by since I started my journey working with children. We as educators are the child’s role model, they are watching everything we do so it is important to have a positive attitude and always let the children know they matter and we care. Great Essay Avery!!
Marshanae Matthews
April 28, 2022 — 4:49 pm
Hey Avery,
I enjoyed reading your essay. I believe your essay demonstrated the importance of positive relationships and how impactful they are to both children and teachers. It really makes a difference to children that they can feel when their teacher is for them and have their best interest at heart. Your essay resonated with me a lot because building positive relationships with children and families is something I have lived by since I started my journey working with children. As an educator I believe that when children build trust with you as their teacher it is important to always be somebody, they find comfort in and as the teacher you will see the difference in their interactions with everyone around them. Great Essay!!
Beth Wood
April 28, 2022 — 8:13 pm
Hey Avery,
I found your essay very powerful to read. I appreciate the strong bond you created between the children and the parents. I have also known parents who felt relief when they knew certain staff were present. It really shows how attentive parents are to the care and well-being of their children, which I think some people forget. I’m glad these experiences with that particular family had an impact on you. I’m looking forward to hearing more of your work in the future.
Great post,
~Beth